How To Love Yourself Through The Difficult Times When There’s Little Growth Posted on January 4, 2019 by admin The way we treat ourselves in difficult moments says a whole lot about who we are. It’s easy to be on top of the world when things are moving and we want to hold on to the feeling hoping it is going to last forever. Yet when it does not, it feels like we’re bound to train paths with an oncoming train headed our way and not able to move. How we act towards ourselves in our darkest moment’s lays the foundation for who we become later on. Self-love is a difficult concept for many to grasp. I have had innumerable coaching sessions with people who find it tough to love and appreciate themselves. They become entrenched into our mind and nervous system and, if strengthened, are difficult to give up. However, difficult does not mean impossible. Is this something you’ve experienced? By way of example, how can you treat yourself when things don’t go your way? When your significant other breaks up with you or your health or finances suffer. What’s your inner dialogue during these times? I’ve experienced pain and suffering throughout my entire life in the shape of losing my father to disease, a relationship break up, a health crisis and financial woes. There were times I found it difficult to appreciate myself due to this despairing inner dialogue that convinced me it was my fault for being in this situation. I felt stuck, helpless and hopeless to navigate my way out. It is why I wrote my first book since it was a theme I was intimate with and new well. However, I recognised that being trapped in my situation was not who I am. It was not the narrative I wanted to live, nor succumb to. I knew somewhere deep within me there was a presence yearning to express itself but I didn’t know how to get in contact with it. I wanted to love and nurture myself with compassion rather than negative self-talk. Gradually, I noticed my conditions began to shift and my inner dialogue changed when I started meditating. I dared to go deep into my being and connect with the love inside me. Breaking Down The Old And Tired Ways Of Living The love within us expects you to come home to it. It’s your palace of refuge, a place that knows no bounds, other than to receive you in its arms and wake you to your authentic self. The self-love I speak of begins by recognising that tough moments do not last. To love yourself through difficult times when there’s minimal growth requires you trust that what is taking place is doing so to help you give up the ruins of the past. It is breaking down the tired and old methods of living so a new foundation of strength and love can emerge from your authentic self. The spiritual teacher and author Matt Kahn offers us the wisdom in his book What’s Here to Help You: A Loving Guide for Your Soul’s Evolution that love is more than an emotion but a wellspring of compassion that resides within us and our job is to bring it forth:”From a spiritual perspective, love is not an emotion we feel all of the time. Love is an unwavering depth of compassion and empathy that reaches inward to adopt our experiences-no matter how mixed up, shut down, unfulfilled, or overwhelmed we tend to be. When rooted in the vibration of love, we do not have to be totally treated to bring forth the care and kindness that already dwells within us.” There is a source of love within you that beckons one to connect with this. Don’t take my word for it since it appears on your screen. Unite with this loving presence by standing in front of a mirror and reciting the words:”I love you” the minute you finish reading this report. Recite them as frequently as possible because you are outside conditions do not need to dictate the way you love yourself. The love that I speak of is there waiting for you to come home to it. The more you connect with this boundless presence, the greater it’ll be known throughout your life. The way we treat ourselves through hard times says a whole lot about who we are because who we are is an energy of love. If we make time to get in touch with this presence more frequently, we will realise that our problems serve a purpose; to return us to the wholeness of our true self.