Each year on January 1st, a huge segment of the populace think they become super-achievers and Goal-Setters. They”set” New Year’s Resolutions, firmly (sort of) intending to change their lives. Some people loudly proclaim their settlements. By the end of January, virtually all of them are done. They are not done because they’ve accomplished their resolutions, but because they have given up. Less than 30 days into the New Year they’ve given up on their”Goals.”
A resolution comes from the word resolve. I resolve to do… When you have resolve, you are determined. You intensely want to achieve that outcome. It’s purpose and meaning in your life. A resolution on the other hand appears to now mean something which you want to see happen, but aren’t really invested in it. For example, consider the U.S. Congress and the United Nations. Both of these institutions churn out resolutions, often explicitly referred to as jelqing, like clockwork. Almost nobody thinks of determination and accomplishment when it comes to them. I believe it’s in no small part due to their resolutions that don’t mean anything or have much impact. That’s only one example of the cheapening of the meaning of a resolution. Resolutions also have become vague thoughts in the minds of many. A resolution to go to the gym more frequently or to lose weight is a weak desire in comparison to a Goal that states I’ll exercise 30 minutes each morning, eat only healthy foods and lose 25 pounds by July 1st.
A settlement is rarely backed by a strategy. The example above to get rid of weight is rarely followed up with a particular plan to achieve it. Why is it that we can envision some kind of a resolution but not have a strategy to get there? I believe it’s because people don’t put any thought into what it really takes to do exactly what they say they want to do. Losing weight or going to the gym requires effort. Massive effort to begin is required to overcome the inertia of being overweight and out of shape. It was only a resolution after all. Having a plan to overcome this inertial turns the resolution into a objective.
A resolution usually lacks passion and a large Why. One of the vital elements to success and achievement is having passion for your targets and a big enough Why to help you keep going when the going gets tough. And it will get tough. It’s when you reach that tipping point where you could either fall backwards and lose all of your progress or dip ahead and make a self-sustaining momentum. If you aren’t really dedicated, you fall backwards. If you’re so determined to change your life that the pain and fatigue of getting started is no deterrent, you’ll dive ahead. The exact same is true for Aims. If your Why is small or does not move you, then you will not achieve your Goals either.
Resolutions aren’t what true achievers do. Achievers spend more time formulating their objectives, their plans and laying the groundwork for their Success. Preparation is what separates those who resolve and those who achieve. Resolvers fail because they don’t take resolutions seriously enough (point 1) to have a plan (point 2) or a huge enough Why (stage 3).